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Top 5 Reasons For Older Men Dating Younger Women

While the idea of a cougar, or older woman dating younger men, has become a social norm, what about older men dating younger women? The very idea tends to have negative connotations of young women being taken advantage of by older men, but that is certainly not commonplace. In fact, I would argue that there are at least five good reasons why older men should consider dating younger women.

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  • Expectations

If you are in your forties, dating women your own age will often come laden with expectations that may not meet your own. These women tend to be looking for a quicker turn-around from dating to the altar than their younger counterparts. With no serious long term plans on the horizon, your expectations are more likely to line up with those of a younger woman.

  • Math

Men like to see the numbers, good hard data, before making a decision. When it comes to women who are available to date, they are more likely to be in their 20s and 30s. Finding a single woman to match your own age, if you are in your 40s or 50s, is going to present a challenge. It makes sense to widen the pool a little bit.

  • Maturity

Let’s face it. Women tend to be more mature than men, at any age. Though we first notice it in junior high when girls are looking down their noses at the “little boys” they are forced to sit next to, it doesn’t end there. A younger woman is going to be entertained by your fun date ideas that may leave a woman your own age rolling her eyes. You can show the “real you” and have fun doing silly things together without judgment.

  • Baggage

Simply, younger women have less of it. While it is not necessarily fair to expect the woman you date to have less skeletons in the closet than you have, life is certainly less stressful if you don’t both have crazy ex’s and family drama to deal with. Obviously, a woman in her 40s or 50s is more likely to have been married and have experienced divorce or death of a spouse. A woman in her 20s or 30s may not have previous spouses or children. They’ve also had less time to become cynical about dating.

  • Ego

This goes both ways. The younger woman dating an older man gains the advantages of his greater experience, knowledge, and usually earning potential. The older men dating younger women is reassured that he’s still “got it.”

Why Older Men Like Younger Women

Older men Like younger women is  becoming a more popular phenomenon, especially in recent years. But why older men like younger women?

As the Roman’s say, a man can still have a child when there is snow on the roof, but a woman’s time is short. Older men seem to like younger women, and the truth is, it works the other way too. Older women hate it, but that’s just the way men are. older men like younger women

Here are a few people discuss older men like younger women.

Question 1 

i am 19 and dating a 30 year old, he keeps telling me how he loves younger girls. why is that a lot of guys like to date younger women as opposed to older women?


Random:  I think that there’s nothing wrong w/ the age gap, the question is is why he’s telling you that he likes younger women. He should like YOU as a person and not just your age or what you look like when you’re young. Best of luck. I don’t know you guys, but please respect yourself and make sure that he respects YOU and your personality and not your youth.

Javier : An older man with a good head on his shoulders will love and care for a younger woman. I Have always been attracted to older men myself, but they tend to lead me to trouble in the long run, so I remain single.

LBR : Actually I am an older woman that has dated younger men….I dont know what it is about them but I just like it. Im not into little boys (no offense to anyone), but I tend to swing toward the younger guy. So I think it’s a preference and is not always the norm. Ive had younger guys tell me that they like going out with older girls because they are more mature and have already been through alot in life; no hassles with them. Again, no offense to you or any other younger girls on here. What Im trying to say is, dating and love is subjective…to each his own. We are all individuals.

Question 2

Why do older men like younger women and want to marry them?


Michelle S:  Sometimes it just happens that way. My Husband is 22 years older than me, we have been together for almost 10yrs. now.  Now as for women only wanting older men for money…that is not always the case. Men seem to take longer to mature…I was tired of all the games & immaturity.

Cyclist 2300: because a younger woman….. still has that pretty smile… no wrinkles…. and things are not sagging….. everything is firm and perfect.  they don’t do it for love….. they want the trophy.

Jason B : You know, that’s a really good question, but I don’t think there’s one perfect answer for this one. I’m a guy and I try not fall into that “cliche” of only going after women younger than me. Some guys find it easier to date girls that are younger because, lets face it, a lot of girls like older men and its obvious to them. Some guys feel this need to be the one in control in a relationship and think that by being older they can recieve this power automatically. Others, probably those we would refer to as shallow, want a younger woman so that they can feel in control when they are younger and feel younger as they get older. So basically, its not a fact that most men go for younger women, but when they do, sometimes its legitimatally an honest attraction and other times its to take advantage of someone who seems more vulnerable.

Question 3

Isn’t having sex with someone you love or have spent years being intimate with more sexually fulfilling than someone who is twenty-one years of age? I mean a woman who is 40 as compared to a twenty-five year old is more equipped and willing to satisfy. I just don’t get how people no matter their age would rather be with someone else when they have it good at home. It’s like how older white men stare at younger women and flirt with them while their wife is present and feel no shame about it lol. Please be objective or subjective whatever tickles your fancy.


Sarah:  First of all, you have to understand the innate differences in the sexes. Men are hardwired chemically and hormonally as visual and visceral beings. They tend to “see” things and become excited by them…this is why men, traditionally, like pornography, having sex with the lights on, having their partner play “dress up” in lingerie, etc. This relates back to the hunting and gathering stage of evolution, when in order to survive, men had to be more “in the moment”, more aggressive, etc. Women, on the other hand, are more emotional beings. We tend to “feel” things more deeply than we see them. This is why women are all about the romance, the entire experience rather than just the in the moment experience.

With the above said, I don’t think that you can paint the entire male species with a broad brush and say that “all men” prefer younger women over their same aged partners, because this just isn’t true. Of course, an older man (being innately visual, as I stated above) really can’t help his hormonal, testosterone response to seeing an attractive woman–this is why they look and why they flirt–but not all men act upon these desires.

You are correct in saying that a 40 year old woman is actually more equipped to sexually satisfy a man. As we age, women change…we hit our sexual peak in our mid to late 30’s, while men hit their peaks at a much younger age. A 20 year old woman is likely not going to be as adventurous in bed as an older, confident and experienced woman. Unfortunately, men can sometimes be a little slow on the uptake in understanding this, so they fall prey to their visual stimulation issue and find themselves more attracted to the younger, tighter bodied women.

Again, not all men are as your described above. Most mature, intelligent and respectful men that have grown into their own emotional and sexual selves realize that the connection that they feel with theirr older partners is more important, and in the long run more satisfying, than giving intotheirr innate visual desires. I also know plenty of younger men who actually prefer older women who have taken care of themselves and their bodies, because they are more sexually adventurous.

Ameerah: My husband is younger than me…however…. If you keep yourself up and be just as fun and spontaneous , who cares if they look… whose arm is he on, and who does he go home with?  oh and Andy…. Im mid 40’s… and tightness has NOTHING to do with age~…. trust me.

Sapphire: Sorry but I am 38 and look much better, and and am in better shape than I was in my 20s. It IS possible. I have good genes and work out, so why shouldn’t it be possible?

I am dating a 25 year old now, who turned down a 21 year old – why? Aside from personality (she’s whiny, childish and plays games) she is overweight and promiscuous.. So I’d rather say SHE is the one who’s used up… Hmm?

Age means NOTHING. If you were talking about an 80 year old woman as opposed to a 19 year old, then, ok, but it’s ALL about lifestyle. Too many 20 year olds are worn down and used up these days cos they’ve been having sex and drinking/smoking since they were 13.


An older man likes a younger woman is flattery. As we get older, with each passing year, it gets harder and harder to attract younger and younger women. They just aren’t interested in us! Quit worrying, ladies!

As you can see, as you age, the younger and younger of a woman you can attract, the more flattering it is. What? I’m 54, and I can still attract a 16 year old? I can die happy now!

I was driving around town the other day and drove by the high school. What the Hell, this town is ugly as sin, and that’s about the only decent scenery in the place. As long as you’re discreet, Olive Avenue’s pretty much a scenic highway at midafternoon. There was a young 16-17 year old girl standing by the gate. I glanced over. She immediately snaked her body in slithering move that spelled sex sex sex sex while looking laser eyes right at me. Damn that felt good. I went home and felt great for the rest of the day.